Breaking the Rules | 5 Ways to Make Your Wedding Day ‘Yours’

I market myself as a wedding photographer for the rule breakers. To me, this simply means being unafraid to wave tradition goodbye, and to embrace your eccentricities. Once upon a time, weddings were nothing more than a formality. However in the last ten years, the industry has been totally reawakened. Things are becoming so much less formal, more personal, and frankly, braver.

Now, I’ve no doubts that thanks to the likes of Instagram, weddings are becoming more competitive than ever. And for those couples that care more about bettering someone else’s big day, this might not be the right article for you. I want to talk about how you can create your wedding unique and personal to you as a couple. Forget the competition.

There are plenty of ways you can add your personalities in to your wedding day. In this post I’m going to share, what I believe, are 5 of the most effective ways to do so. Ultimately, it comes down to being bold enough to say no to traditions, and to embrace change. But let me tell you exactly what I mean…

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#1 First & foremost, remember who this day is for – you two.

It can be easy to fall in to the trap of people pleasing whilst planning your wedding. Your family and friends may offer their opinions where they’re not wanted. It’s almost inevitable. Don’t let that deter you from putting the things that make you and your future spouse happy, first. At the end of the day, it’s yours wedding, not theirs.

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#2 Decide which traditions that you may want to scrap.

There’s a number of traditions laced within the fabric of a wedding day. Some of which include cake cuttings, first dances, speeches, and more. However, just because something is expected from a wedding day, doesn’t mean any one will miss it if it doesn’t happen. And more so, if the idea of cutting your cake does not tickle your pickle; you should be brave enough to scrap it. Forget the gasps of horror from edlerly relatives if you decide to walk down the aisle together, rather than being given away. And honestly, if you as the Groom do not want to give a speech to a room full of people, don’t put yourself through the stress. You’ll have other friends and family members that may actually enjoy the performance of doing it instead.

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#3 Use the decor to tell your stories – go big or go DIY.

Going DIY is a great way of sprinkling your quirks and personalities in to the aesthetic of your wedding day. Make decorations, rope family members in to helping you design them, and go to markets and car boot sales to pick up bits and bobs. That being said, going DIY isn’t the only way to express yourselves. Finding a stylist or hire company that takes time to get to know who you are, or listen to your wants and dreams, goes a long way. Plus, they’re experts. They’ll know exactly how to dress your venue up if you give them enough of a brief; whether you’re big on travelling, reading books, or watching films.

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#4 To Church, or not to Church? That is the question.

Feeling like you absolutely have to get married in a Church in order for your day to feel remotely like a wedding, is not unusual. However, be aware of how doing so may infringe on your freedom of expression. There are still a lot of rules when it comes to marrying in God’s house. In fact, in my experience, a lot of Churches still don’t even permit photography. Make a list of what’s important to you when it comes to the ceremony, and explore other routes that may better suit you as individuals. You can even hire independant celebrants nowadays. I mean, have you even heard of a sand ceremony? Give it a Google, it might be for you.

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#5 Think outside the box when it comes to entertainment & food.

You don’t have to hire a regular wedding band, or serve a three course meal, in order to fit the mould of a wedding. If you’re trying to aim for something uber traditional, then so be it. However, there’s nothing wrong with saying “Actually, I’d like something far less formal and far more fun.” I’ve got a couple of weddings coming up this year that are serving street food and encouraging their guests to see their day as one big party. One of those in particular is opting for Sri Lanken street food. I mean, gosh! One of my first ever weddings also opted for paella. Yum! As well as food, you can have something less predictable when it comes to entertainment. At the same wedding that served paella, they had a Bucking Broncho in the evening and a Spotify playlist. There’s also a band I recommend to all of my couples called Back Chat Brass. They’re a band that actually turn up ‘unannounced’ to your day playing brass instruments to the sound of modern songs. Great fun! So many of your guests will let their hair down and get stuck in, walking away from it wishing they’d been brave enough to do things their way too. It’s kinda radical, but bloody good fun.

So, there you have it. Food for thought, I hope. There’s plenty of ways you can break the rules and form new traditions. Be bold, be brave, and be yourselves.